Someone who feels powerless may speak sharply to their partner beside them rather than the family member who caused the wound. Ouch! A parent carrying shame may withdraw rather than face a difficult truth. A colleague who is underperforming may talk down to others, or show that they are better than them, because that feels safer than confronting their own fears.
Tag: conscious leadership
When Pain Travels Sideways
Sometimes the sharpest pain in a family or workplace is not the original harm or incident, but how the tension travels sideways. In my new 3-part blog series I explore this pattern, and how we can meet it with clarity and steadiness.
How to Change a Belief System Gently (And for Good)
Once we understand why change is hard, and why grief walks beside it, we can begin the real work changing the beliefs that keep us repeating old patterns. This post is part 3 of a short 3 part series. The links to parts 1 and 2 can be found below. Beliefs aren’t facts. They’re conclusions […]