Someone who feels powerless may speak sharply to their partner beside them rather than the family member who caused the wound. Ouch! A parent carrying shame may withdraw rather than face a difficult truth. A colleague who is underperforming may talk down to others, or show that they are better than them, because that feels safer than confronting their own fears.
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How to Change a Belief System Gently (And for Good)
Once we understand why change is hard, and why grief walks beside it, we can begin the real work changing the beliefs that keep us repeating old patterns. This post is part 3 of a short 3 part series. The links to parts 1 and 2 can be found below. Beliefs aren’t facts. They’re conclusions […]
The Hidden Grief of Becoming Someone New
When people talk about change, they often speak about breakthroughs, courage and clarity. What they don’t talk about is the shift within us, the grief, the quiet ache that arrives when we begin to loosen an old identity, or step out of a familiar pattern. The first time I understood this was during the biggest […]