Someone who feels powerless may speak sharply to their partner beside them rather than the family member who caused the wound. Ouch! A parent carrying shame may withdraw rather than face a difficult truth. A colleague who is underperforming may talk down to others, or show that they are better than them, because that feels safer than confronting their own fears.
When Pain Travels Sideways
Sometimes the sharpest pain in a family or workplace is not the original harm or incident, but how the tension travels sideways. In my new 3-part blog series I explore this pattern, and how we can meet it with clarity and steadiness.
You’ve Got the Music In You
In a world that encourages critique and comparison — especially of ourselves — gathering with others to sing freely is strangely liberating. You feel your voice join with strangers and somehow your nervous system settles. You belong, even briefly. You contribute, even quietly.