This post is pinned to the top of the Blue Borage blog as a statement of intention for how Conversation Cafés are held. It reflects the values, structure, and leadership stance guiding this work as we move into 2026.
Choosing a Different Way
Once we understand the sideways movements that appear in strained families and workplaces, self-compassion and confidence rises. We stop assuming the discomfort is our fault. We see the pattern for what it is. From there, we gain the space to choose. This is where insight becomes practice.
Seeing the Drama Triangle from the Side
Someone who feels powerless may speak sharply to their partner beside them rather than the family member who caused the wound. Ouch! A parent carrying shame may withdraw rather than face a difficult truth. A colleague who is underperforming may talk down to others, or show that they are better than them, because that feels safer than confronting their own fears.